The crash landing out of university life is an odd feeling; you spend the first few months of summer thinking youâ€™ll be returning in September, so July and August feel like a state of limbo. As you slowly begin to realise that you have to be an adult and you will not be returning to party with the freshers, grown-up mode gradually sets in (kind of).
There are many things that people donâ€™t warn you about for post-grad life, so instead of getting major FOMO (fear of missing out) and avoiding all social media in case you see how much fun the new first years are having, take a read of the below to prepare for that peculiar half student/half adult feeling.
- When your student discount card expires, itâ€™s more upsetting than youâ€™d think.
Even if it was only 10% off at Topshop, it made buying their Â£5 nail varnishes a lot more fun.
- You actually have to find things to do in your spare time.
Lazing around all day watching day time TV with your flatmates didnâ€™t seem so bad, but doing it by yourself is a whole lot sadder. Now you have to find a hobby or anything to avoid the boredom tears.
- Finding a full time job is the hardest thing. Ever.
You need a job to get experience but you need experience to get a job. This is a vicious circle.
- You have to put on â€˜people clothesâ€™ when you leave the house.
Walking to the student union to buy bread in your sweatpants is acceptable. However, doing a large supermarket shop in them is not so in your hometown where there arenâ€™t students on your wavelength.
- You have to inform your parents of your every move.
You donâ€™t realise until you move home how much freedom uni gives you. Having to be considerate to your family when you get home late is a tough change from coming in at 3am with your friends and proceeding to cook a cheese-based pasta dish.
- Everything you need is no longer a walkable distance.
If you want a McDonalds you most likely have to drive to one. If you want to leave the club in your hometown, you must book a taxi (or wake Dad). Pre-drinks are not at your neighbourâ€™s house. If you want to go clothes shopping, you better prepare for a 45 minute drive to the mall.
- Say goodbye to spontaneity.
During uni if everyone in the flat had nothing to do, youâ€™d go and get a roast dinner, if you wanted to walk to town and get a hot chocolate, there was always someone to go with. Adult life means you and your friends now have to pre-plan things and organise when youâ€™re going to see each other. Also, ordering a pizza for lunch is frowned upon by your parents.
- IKEA isnâ€™t fun anymore.
Shopping trips to Ikea in the last three years meant there was always something you could get for your uni room. Now itâ€™s slightly harder to justify buying a fluffy bathmat and your family donâ€™t get excited about that foldaway chair in the same way your housemates did.
- Getting up at 6am for work (if youâ€™re lucky enough to have landed a job) literally makes you want to cry.
You know that feeling youâ€™d get when you had a 9am lecture? Itâ€™s like that but 20 times worse, and this time you actually have to go.
- You have to communicate with grownups.
It was okay throughout the last three years because the majority of people you spoke to were your age, are as poor as you and as tired as you. You must now talk to people who arenâ€™t in their 20s and they can be a serious bunch. Also, they will not laugh at your slobbiness, they will judge you.
Apart from the intense FOMO feeling, being a graduate also brings a sense of freedom. Youâ€™re in charge of your future and now is the time to create it. Essays are a thing of the past, and you can say goodbye to that constant guilt you feel when youâ€™re doing anything apart from studying. Additionally, making your own money is the best feeling, so just enjoy the real world.
-Written by Kathryn Knight