Its 2018 and if you’re heading into a new year single, be it newly single or seemingly spending more time on the shelf than off we have the inside tips for you. We got to have a chat with Edit producer at film production company Whitehouse post Ryan Smith who was recently matched up for Channel 4s First Dates. Did he find love? Is he still looking? and what advice can he give us singletons?!
2018 a new year a new you? What’s your dating plans for this year?
It would be great to meet someone this year! I did meet someone, but they live on the other side of the world… typical. I think the biggest thing for me this year is to try and not put any pressure on myself to find love. Enjoy dating, rather than dread it!
Have you made any dating resolutions?
To try and not be such a sensitive lil flower, and go with the flow. I get massively caught up in my emotions, and have been known to put everything on the table really early on. I have to tell myself, “Ryan, it’s ok to hold back!” but when I feel something, I want to shout it from the rooftops. I tell myself every time to try and reign it in, but I never learn. Once a dreamer, always a dreamer.
What is the most common date blunder you’ve come across? (Biggest turn off?)
I have two really bad dates that I won’t forget in a hurry. I went on a terrible date with a personal trainer about a year ago. He only talked about himself, and his jokes did not hit the mark. He took the piss out of my body, which is all good if I know you, but on a first date? Nah, bye bye pal. The second one was with a guy in a bar. He got his phone out to show me something, and the last thing he watched was a man having sex with a snake. It was really, really odd. I left about 30 seconds later.
Do NOT talk about an ex or past relationship on a date!
Recommended methods of dating/finding love? Would you say we need to revert back to the good old fashion introduction from a friend or is the way forward online?
I’m totally down for online dating, but I’m an old romantic, and the dream would be to meet someone naturally in a bar, or through a friend, etc. The last person I really fell for was introduced to me by a friend, so it definitely still works! Also, although I use dating apps, it’s really easy to hide behind an internet persona. People only show you what they want you to see on the internet.
It’s not all doom and gloom being single and actually there is a lot left unsaid for being young free and single! Give us some of the bonuses of being unattached?
Ha! Well I’ve been single for 3 years, and the good thing is being able to live your life for just you. And Christmas is a lot cheaper.
What would you say is the common misconception about online dating/dating sites?I think nowadays online dating is the way forward for a lot of people. They don’t have time to go out looking for love, so why not sit on the train home and swipe left and right for twenty minutes? I’m not shy about being a Tinder user, however I think a big concern of mine is people are always looking for something better. I could match Frank Ocean and keep swiping until I find Wentworth Miller.
Where is the best place to go on a first date?
Contrary to being on First Dates, I think dinner is all wrong for the first date! I get too nervous to eat, and it’s a pretty intense situation to be in. Staring at each other while chewing on a mouthful of garlic bread? I’m all about a pub or bar, somewhere with a bit of a vibe, where you can relax and be yourself. I’m quite partial to a bit of a bar crawl for a first date!
Lastly what makes for a good second date?
Thaaaaat’s when you go for food!
Ok quick fire round:
1. Best dating app/site – Tinder
2. First date plans/venue – A cool bar/pub with music
3. Best chat up line – ‘Are you chapstick? Coz you da balm.’ I have a whole list of incredible chat up lines, not even joking. Probably why I’m still single…
4. Worst chat up line – ‘Do you come here often?’ How are you meant to answer that?!
5. Dating do – Be yourself!
6. Dating don’t – Talk about an ex!